This year, I officially joined the half-century club, and let me tell you, turning 50 came with a download of epiphanies so potent they deserve a public airing. Here are my lessons learned:
- What will people say? Well people have always been saying something about someone since the cavemen era. I am done worrying about opinions.
- Friends and family’s thoughts? They are too busy starring in their own dramas to spare any headspace for me. So I can carry on with my life. Liberating!
- Kids: Apparently Self-Sufficient. Who Knew? Kids don’t need my helicopter parenting. They grow up just fine—maybe even better—when I stop hovering like a drone on low battery.
- In-laws, house guests versus my school friends reunion? My school friends reunion takes precedence, I am not sitting back to play maid. Period. My joy > their judgment.
- Speaking my mind? Yes, I can speak up and speak out without the fear of hurting someone’s feelings. If someone’s feelings are so fragile, its their problem not mine.
- Losing weight? The dress and the impress-o-meter are irrelevant. My health is what’s paramount. I’d like to climb stairs without needing an oxygen mask.
- Fixing, advising or judging people? Not on my list. People are who they are, and they do what they do. It’s a function of their genes, their upbringing, their situation and their hormones. So, I just see and be.
- My Outfit? My mood decides whether I dress up or dress down. Not the event, not the guest list.
- Drama? A straight no. I’m allergic to theatrics and done with the circus. Bring me raw, real, straight-up truth—or get out of my way.
- Perimenopause? Yes its real. Its like my body’s throwing a hormonal tantrum. But I’m still the boss of my life!
Cheers to owning 50 and beyond with a royal swag and absolutely zero apologies!
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